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Question:
Jennifer,
My wife has lost her vision after 47 years due to complications with a brain abscess. I feel she is starting to lose hope and the tears seem to come on a daily basis. I know you are not a psychologist, but having gone through this
tragic event, do you have words that I can say to comfort her during these rough times? It tears me apart to see her go through this, and I am pursuing options and consultations to see if there is anything we can due to restore some vision, but am realizing we may have what we have. I have a great network of family and friends whose support has been amazing, but at the end of the day, I need words of comfort and encouragement that I seem lost on. Any advice would be appreciated.
Answer:
I am so sorry your wife is struggling so. She is blessed to have a husband so compassionate. You're right brother, a psychologist I am not, but I do have a few thoughts. I know the words of encouragement I need most from my husband are of this sort: "I will never walk away; we will get through this together. This issue, and anything you deal with, will never be too much for me. I won't get tired of dealing with this with you. You don't wear me out with this struggle. I am on your team. You are still beautiful. You are strong, and I admire you." Of course, she needs the encouragement that she can do this and God is with her, but there's something about the reassuring voice of a husband speaking to a wife's secret fears that really helps give courage.
My only other thought as I read your email was to make sure she has the medical support she needs during these changes. The vision loss she is dealing with is enough to cause some serious depression, but I can't imagine the impact a brain abscess has had on her chemical balance. Perhaps a candid conversation with her doctor about this could lend some physical/chemical support her body needs.
All I know is God's grace shows up when we need it most, and that is my prayer for both of you. Bless you, brother, and give your wife a huge "thumbs-up, you can do it" from me!
Jennifer
And now the beans are officially spilled.
My only other thought as I read your email was to make sure she has the medical support she needs during these changes. The vision loss she is dealing with is enough to cause some serious depression, but I can't imagine the impact a brain abscess has had on her chemical balance. Perhaps a candid conversation with her doctor about this could lend some physical/chemical support her body needs.
All I know is God's grace shows up when we need it most, and that is my prayer for both of you. Bless you, brother, and give your wife a huge "thumbs-up, you can do it" from me!
Jennifer
And now the beans are officially spilled.
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