What Women are Saying about Self Talk, Soul Talk

I have been so moved by the comments people are sending in to explain how Self Talk, Soul Talk is impacting their lives.  I'd love to hear from you -- just leave a comment at the bottom of this page. My hope is that everyone who reads this book will find the encouragement and tools to examine their thought closet, and learn to speak life giving truth to their souls!

Thanks for all of your responses. I cannot express how much of an encouragement they are to me...

Blessings,

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I had never heard of you or your story before, but the title of the book, Self Talk, Soul Talk, intrigued me. I finally opened it up last night and began reading the first chapter. I began weeping when I read page 12, when you described yourself as a good girl with vast perfectionist tendencies--oh boy, is that me!

Even though God in His infinite mercy saved me 17 years ago, I still had not been able to get rid of the terrible things I have thought and said about myself.

He has blessed my husband and me with 7 daughters, who are going to benefit from the things I will learn from you in this book. I will learn to bless them with my words. They will not have to continue the cycle of negative self talk, but will be able to fill their closets with beautiful soul talk. Words don't convey how deeply grateful I am that they put your book in my bag.
- Anna

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I have just completed your book, Self Talk, Soul Talk, and I cannot express in words exactly what you have done to help me with what I am telling myself and to my soul, which have usually been negative. Now, I have something within myself that is workable!

- Marsha from  West Virginia

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I am a freshly-certified counselor at a clinic... I am already beginning to recognize what many of my clients have in common - no matter what their issues may be - negative thoughts! I have been thinking about resources, - books that I can give to them as ‘homework.’ Simply reading an excerpt from your book, I am convinced it will be perfect for many of them- to help them fight lies with truth!
- Lacy from Mississippi

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I have only read 5 chapters so far and have found myself reading some parts several times. I think this book is very important to anyone who has had any history of verbal or emotional abuse. Thank you.
- Robin

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I wanted to say I started reading your book right away and have finished two chapters. I think you wrote it for me.Your book has given me hope and such a picture of where I am and where I need to go, - checking to see what fits and get rid of what doesn't. I can't wait to get to Chapter 3.
- Susan from Arkansas

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Because for the last 2 years the Lord has been dealing with me about my words, I decided to get your book yesterday. I just read the first chapter and viewed your story online. I so much want the Lord to continue to "bring to the top" those words and things that I say in my mind about myself that need to be replaced with soul talk and His words. I so much want to get just how much God loves me.
- Candy

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You are touching so many lives...the young woman whom I am mentoring is coming out of despair because of our studying ‘Soul Talk’ together.

She, in the past, had continuously called herself a failure. Since we began this study, she has changed her self-talk to realizing God can and wants to use her in the now circumstances of life. Self Talk, Soul Talk is truly a God anointed work and I pray His richest blessings on you for being obedient in writing it.
- Cindi from Tennessee

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I have only read the first chapter of this book and I can already tell it will change so much in my life. I have spent so many years believing the lies people speak about me; it’s time to clean out the closet!
- Tina

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I am aware of how a thought closet can start - there are many ugly horrible thoughts that were placed there from my infancy to young adult years. I believed those to be what was true about me and my life. It has been easy to step into that closet and keep repeating one of those thoughts.

Any hard circumstance that comes up, I find myself saying that is proof that those thoughts were correct.

Now, I see I must get into that closet and take hold of these thoughts and find "the Truth" and only let "the Truth" be the thoughts that are active in my thought closet.
- Bonnie

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Well, I let Chapter 1 sink in and then read Chapter 2. I could relate to so many things in this chapter and I have been known to call myself silly, stupid and such. God doesn't make silly and stupid, so why am I labeling myself as such? I am working on stopping myself in that moment and giving myself a positive word. Thank you for the great interview with Marilyn and your wonderful words. Praise God, I am growing!!
- Susan

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I ordered this book as a gift for myself. I think the biggest battle for me, for as long as I can remember, has had to do with self talk. Thank you for being a good gift for me on this day.
- Laurie

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I bought your book yesterday at a Bible book store. I stood in the store looking at books, knowing that the Lord had something there for me to read.  I came across your book and to make a long story short, I purchased the book. I am so grateful that the Lord loves me enough to bring this book into my life. After reading the first chapter, I know this is for me. I truly need to clean out my closet. I want to live the life God has chosen for me. I want to live in Him and do for Him what He wants. I thank-you for your book and I thank God for leading me to it. I can't wait to read more. God bless you.
- Carol

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Not only is Self Talk, Soul Talk helping me with my daily personal thought life, it is also helping to change the way I pray. Thank you for this awesome book!
- Charlotte

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I found your book helpful, valuable and refreshing to my mental needs, - very inspirational that I found myself crying at times while reading your book. Mostly easy reading; Will recommend the reading.
Thank you.
- Emerita

Comments

[Laralea Scott]

This book was given to me by a beautiful, Christian Psychology Professor whom I admire and respect very much. I experienced great emotional trauma as a child, and this book has been a "God-Send" to me. Thank you, Louisiana College and Jennifer Rothschild!

[Rita from Alabama]

Jennifer -

On November 20,2007 I made a note to myself as I had started reading your book on an airplane to visit my son for Thanksgiving saying must email Jennifer to let her know how finding her book was God's perfect timing. Today is January 3,2008 and I am just now emailing you. And I am still reading your book.

Each chapter I have read has become like a personal journal as I am making notes to myself or comments on something you have written. I am underlining and highlighting as I read. I found your book right before I took this trip just by accidence.

I had been looking for it since first reading about you writing it and its release date. I had read your other books on Faith and done the bible study twice with two different women groups. But neither of my local Christian Book Stores had your book. And I had not gotten around to ordering it online.

I did find it right before my trip on the shelf at my local book store after being told it was not in the computer. I think God knew the timing would be perfect for me to read your book when I had the time to sit and take in each word without something pulling at me. I am for sure the "sandwich" generation with aging parents and keeping grandchildren.

This book has helped me take time to talk to my soul as I read it. Some chapters have words circled or a cross beside a sentence that spoke to my soul. Just as I did in my books about faith you wrote. I am hoping that a bible study book will follow Soul Talk.

[Tina]

Jennifer,

What an eye opening book. We sometimes don't realize the damage we can do to ourselves by what we say to ourselves. This book opened my eyes to the way I was talking to myself and now I will stop and think about what I need to say. It has made a difference in my life.

P.S. Keep writing. I can't wait until you have another book out. Not only do I buy them for myself but also for my close friends.

[Myrl Betts]

After reading about one half of Jennifer's book "Self Talk, Soul Talk", I knew that I had to buy extra copies and give to my friends.

The book is very inspiring and got me to look deep into my thought closet and dust off some of the shelves and change my way of thinking. Jennifer has a way of presenting the material to get you to look within yourself and change your way of talking to yourself.

You don't feel condemned, but open to change what you say to yourself. I have flagged several pages to go back and to remind myself when I forget and say negative things to or about me to change my talk. This is a must read for everyone!

Myrl

[Cheryl]

What really grabbed my attention was the phrase on the back of the book "I'm an idiot." It has been the basic staple item in my thought closet as long as I can remember. The comfy old "jeans" in my closet jumped off the page at me in the first chapter..."Never good enough." That has been my perfectionist motivation since a cruel and needless firing from a ministry at a crucial point in my life.

Thank you for being an open and willing vessel for God to fill and use to help women like me realize how very much we are valued and loved by God.

[Carla]

I am only a little over five years in Christ. My past is one of alcoholism, drug addiction, people pleasing man idolizing, and self-centeredness. My self-talk was nothing but negative, mainly due from the abandonment of my father when I was a baby.

I continually told myself that I was worthless and unlovable, bad, ignorant, stupid, inadequate, ugly, dumb and so on. God has been transforming me, and my self-talk is much better now, but it still gets negative quite often...May God continue to use you to bless others as well as bless you.

[Mary]

Though I struggle with organization, I refuse to believe that voice that says, "You aren't organized and you never will be."

Your book has encouraged me, after reading just the first chapter, to keep trying and to trust God to bless my efforts. I can hardly wait to continue reading.

God bless you for sharing and for using the talent our Lord has given you.

[Cheryl]

Your book is helping me to change my self-talk. Instead of waking up each morning with the thought, "I must be worthless--I don't belong here," I'm trying to change my script to "I am the valuable and precious creation of God, and I'm going enjoy being who He created me to be."

I've read other books on self-talk over the last few years--yours is by far the easiest to understand and apply.

[Bonnie]

I am aware of how a thought closet can start - there are many ugly horrible thoughts that were placed there from my infancy to young adult years. I believed those to be what was true about me and my life. It has been easy to step into that closet and keep repeating one of those thoughts.

Now, I see I must get into that closet and take hold of these thoughts and find "the Truth" and only let "the Truth" be the thoughts that are active in my thought closet.

[Suzanne Greer]

Our ladies' Sunday morning class has been studying this book and the scriptures that go along with it for the past 9 weeks. I highly recommend this for other women's groups. Every week more women come and ask for a book. They are saying things like,"I need to get one for my sister, daughter, mother, friend..."

I also have given several away as gifts. And I have replaced my own negative thoughts with refreshing truth: "His grace is sufficient for me." What a relief.

Why is this book so timely for women? Because we all talk to ourselves. We all meditate daily and through the night. But many times the thoughts going through our minds, into our hearts, and out into our daily lives were not put there by the LOVER of our souls, but by our enemy.

Thank you, Jennifer, for reminding us to speak TRUTH to our souls and to let the truth set us free.

[Debbie]

I came across your book by accident in our local book and Bible store. I glanced through it and then put it down. I walked around looking at other books, but kept coming back to your book. I was in an abusive marriage for 26 years and although I am married to a wonderful man now, I so easily find myself repeating all those belittling angry words I heard said to me every day.

I have a relationship with a wonderful Savior but have not been able to clean out my closet of damaging self talk. I am trusting the Lord to work through your book to help me see who he has created me to be.

[Nate]

Okay, I suspect that I am not your typical reader, because I am a 52-year old man, but here goes.

I heard about your book during an interview you had with James and Betty Robertson. I truly do not know if it will help but I won't know unless I read it.

A little over a year ago, I decided to start making some changes in my life. The first to go was my job. I went from a high stress, high paying job to a much lower stress and not so upwardly mobile one. Physically, this has been great since I am actually able to get some restful sleep. No more on-call pager, and restless nights, almost. More on that in a bit.

I also decided to work on myself and took some steps in that direction as well. The next step came in learning to forgive myself for whatever I needed to forgive myself of. Whether it was the mistakes in my past or those I was making that very day. It has not been easy, but it has been necessary.

What I am working on now is my "thought closet" and it has been a very destructive closet indeed. It has destroyed my relationship with God, it has crushed relationships with women I was dating, including one recently which has been particularly devastating because she is so wonderful. I am working on reconciling with her now. In fact, it is because of this that I am diving deeper to find a solution to my thought closet. It is my hope that I will be able to relate to God on a deeper level than I have allowed. I know this path will not be easy, but after what I have gone through these past 6 months, which have been some of the hardest of my life. I have had enough of the lies.

I just finished Chapter 1 and am encouraged.

Thank you.

Nate

[Lorrina Smith]

This book was recommended to me by my counselor in a Christian Counseling clinic. I found myself there after at least 26 years of battling with Bipolar disorder, suicidal tendencies, and a host of other self destructive issues. My past was wrought with abuse and strife.

I cannot thank you enough for following God's path for your life in writing this book. During my two months of disability at home, I have been reading your book, working on my relationship with God, and preparing to return to work. I feel better about myself than I have in over 26 years. As I prepare to celebrate my 38th birthday on the 22nd of this month I thank God that for the first time in my life I will not lay my head down praying that it be my last.

I am learning to feel better about myself and my relationship with others. Most of all I am learning to let the pain and damage in my life go and let God put them where they belong.

Thank you for your God-inspired words. They have encouraged me and accompanied me through many lonely and distressing nights.

[Mary]

Hi,
I had just left my counselor's office, where we discussed that I need to give up on my perfectionism and that I need to replace my negative self-talk with more nurturing self-talk. I left there determined to treat myself better. I stopped in the grocery store and your book jumped out at me as I walked down the aisle. I knew I had to buy it.

I have read half of it quickly because I am so eager to read it and I then I will read it again slowly and savor it. I know that God put that book in front of me in the grocerty store and I feel really optimistic about not calling myself "idiot" again!

[Lisa S]

When is this book going to come out on DVD as a Bible Study? We are looking for one for the fall for our group.

[Gina]

This book is so helpful and I think God has handed it down from heaven just to me! I have struggled with perfectionism and the "it's all about me" senario for years. I didn't realize it so much until you clarified it in your book. God has given you a timely message and I know that He is going to teach me so that I can share it with others. Thank you!

[Abbie]

I just started reading your book. I talk to myself all the time. I never really thought about what I was saying to myself.

As I did think about it, I realized I am very hard on myself. I also struggle with negative thoughts and I am working on focusing on how much God loves rather than how others feel or think about me. I am looking forward to reading more.

I have done your Bible study "Lessons I Learned in the Dark" and I am hoping to use it for a ladies Sunday School class which I have the privilege of leading. Thank you for your ministry. It is a blessing!

[Tina Morris]

I absolutly love this book. As others have said I think you wrote it just for me. I have read the first few chapters and then went to the local christian book store to see if they had any more copies because I had a friend in my life I wanted to share this powerful message with. I cant wait to read on and learn more. Thank you so much for this message.

[Donna]

I am so excited about this book! I just got it on Monday, and have read 2 chapters and am going to a ladies book club from church tonight where we will discuss what we are learning from the book.

I am a person who has negative tendencies, and I am hoping and believe this book, along with God's help, will help me overcome this. My husband is graduating from college in May and is going to be a pastor, and I have felt as if I could never be a good pastor's wife, and that is what I have been telling myself ever since my husband surrendered to the ministry. I am realizing that I have been telling myself lies! I need to do some cleaning and re-labeling in my thought closet! Thank-you, Jennifer, for writing this book!

[Christy Kirtlan]

I am using your book to teach ladies in my Sunday school class how to replace their negative self-talk with insights from Scripture. Since your book isn't really set up as a study book, do you have any suggestions on how to best utilize your material in a Sunday school setting? Most of the ladies in my class have been Christians for many years, and are "seasoned" saints...I welcome your suggestions in "preaching to the choir!" Thanks for your insight!

[Pam]

Can't believe our study group is almost done with Self Talk. We will be on Ch 10 this week.
The ladies had a question about your blindness after reading Ch 9. They are wondering if you are legally blind, where you can see the outline of things or totally blind. It is kind of a personal question, but the painting of your bedroom brought up the question. We are all learning how to keep the negative from our thought closets. We are all loving the book!
Thanks, Pam

[Ruth Martin]

I have been loving your book and am presently preparing to speak on the "Words we Use" with much help from you. A am particularly anxious to acquire your books for a dear friend who also lost her sight to retinitis pigmentosa. I am hoping that for her sake I can get her audible books. Is this possible? Thanks & God Bless, Ruth

[Ruth Martin]

I have been loving your book and am presently preparing to speak on the "Words we Use" with much help from you. I am particularly anxious to acquire your books for a dear friend who also lost her sight to retinitis pigmentosa. I am hoping that for her sake I can get her audio books. Is this possible? Thanks & God Bless, Ruth

[Tina Vega]

Hi Jennifer - I just heard you talking about this book on a local radio station interview. I just recently posted something similar to my blog (the importance of taking our thoughts captive and in thinking about what we're thinking about - here's a link to that entry: http://tinavega.blogspot.com/2008/03/attitude-check.html). I just ordered two copies of your book, one to keep and one to share; I can't wait to read it!! It is an important message that will help many. Continued blessings in your ministry...

[Linda Simmons]

Dear Jennifer: To make a long story short (34 years worth) I will start with yesterday. I am going through an emotional upheaval that is life-changing. My life-partner told me that by the end of the month that I was on my own. He said I was fat, ugly and old, that he didn't want to be with a 60 year old woman. I am 59, I realize that 60 is the new 59. Ha,Ha.

To get to the point, I was busy trying to pack up and be ready for this, but my mind was full of horrid things, punishments, vindictive actions, nasty things I could say to cut him to ribbons.

I stopped dead in my tracks, ready to weep, telling myself I would be better off dead. I felt very sick inside. I don't know why but I said "Dear God, would you please help me"? I admit I wasn't feeling like this would happen soon. The thoughts have continued, sometimes I was able to ward them off but they bombarded me till bedtime, and my sleep was off and on. When I awoke I turned on the T.V., I landed on the Living Life program, which I will tell you truthfully, I've never watched. Something made me watch long enough to hear what I think was an answer from God.

They were talking about the steps: recognize, refuse, rename. They had me right then and there. I got a pen and paper and wrote down your E-mail. Hence, this is so new to me. It doesn't seem real. I keep thinking nothing or anyon can help me. I don't think it was by chance. I do believe it was a message from God. I plan to purchase and read your book....Wish me luck? And, Thank You. Linda Simmons