The following interviews appear in the Self Talk, Soul Talk book.
An Interview with Marilyn Meberg
Marilyn Meberg is a licensed therapist, an author, and a professional speaker. Listen in on our conversation for a moment as Marilyn described her own self talk to me.
Jennifer: But not to the extent that it’s a real problem?
Marilyn: (Laughs even louder) Of course to the extent that it’s a problem! But when I speak to myself that way, sometimes I need to hear that. Sometimes I’ve done a dumb thing, a tactless thing, something that is lacking wisdom. And I will chastise myself, and I need to hear that sometimes. It’s like a parent has to discipline a child. I discipline myself. “Now Marylyn, you could avoid that next time, if you would just…"
Jennifer: So you counsel yourself?
Marilyn: I take myself into my office and I have a chat. And when I come out of the office, I either want my money back, or I’ll say, “You know, that was good.” That’s constructive, not condemning though. As you know, there are some levels of self-condemnation that are damaging.
Jennifer: How do you know the difference?
Marilyn: Oh, sometimes I need the correction. Sometimes I need the discipline. Sometimes I need to own the truth. That’s instruction. That’s good for me. That builds me up. But when I feel condemned, like I’m not good enough, that’s not instructive. That’s destructive. Instruction brings life; condemnation brings destruction.